The best thing to do is stay busy. Get involved in sports, clubs, an after-school job, etc… That way, when she calls you, begging you to come along (because she couldn’t find anyone “better”), you’ll have a good excuse to say “No thanks.” You’re too busy. Your life is full. No room left for her.
When I was in college, I was in French Club (because I studied French), the United Nations Club, a gamers’ group, and I was on the fencing team. During my summers, I worked at either the college bookstore or at a summer camp. This benefited me in several ways:
- I was only available to people who were true friends (and these were often people who either worked with me or hung out with me at club events).
- I built up great references for when I got out of college because I was involved in so many academic groups.
- By working a lot, I found myself paying off my debts more quickly than some of my fellow students.
It sounds like you’re already aware that you’re not this girl’s BFF. She may claim that you’re close, but don’t believe her. Don’t get sucked into a friendship that only goes one way.
Look on your college’s website for theater groups, athletic clubs, or other extracurricular activities you might find fun and interesting. Join in the fun and find some new friends who share your same interests.
And may I recommend a good book? It’s called Best Friends Forever: Surviving a Breakup With Your Best Friend by Irene S. Levine. The title makes you think this is only about friendships that end, but it has taught me a lot about how to keep a good friendship alive over the years.
Because of this book, my best friend and I have had a fifteen-year-long friendship that’s still going strong. The book also deals with fair-weather friends (like the one you’ve described), changes in friendships (like when a close friend marries, has a child, or experiences a life-changing alteration), and it gives tips on making and keeping new friends.
As you start your freshman year of college, I think you could find this book very helpful.